Getting Over a Guy
Hey girl, I know the end of a relationship can be a painful heartbreak. It’s natural to feel sad, angry, and hurt all at once.
It’s okay to struggle with cutting off hope for the future. But as much as it hurts, it’s important to accept that the relationship is over.
Accepting it can be what we do to move on. So let’s start with our first point:
Acceptance
This is the first step in the healing process, and at the same time, it’s also the most difficult. You need to acknowledge that the relationship is over and that there is no going back.
It’s hard to accept, but it’s an essential step to healing your heartache. And yes, that includes cutting off the hope that he might one day come back.
Trust me. While it’s great to hold onto his memories, it’s unhealthy to hold onto hope.
False hope can cause you to waste time waiting for something that might never happen.
Focus on Feelings and Practice Self-Care
Let your negative emotions out. It’s okay to be sad, angry, confused, and every other negative emotion that comes along with heartache.
It’s not healthy to keep everything bottled up. Give yourself some self-care.
Take yourself out for a bubble bath, try a new hobby, indulge on your hairstyle or shopping, or read by the couch. Focus on some ways to make yourself feel better.
And hey, never forget to remind yourself you’re beautiful and that it’s not your fault.
Socializing with Friends
Spend time with your friends – better yet, have a girls’ night. This might include going out and dancing the night away.
It’s great to have an amazing support system that can help cheer you up. This can also be the perfect time to focus on yourself and enjoy your company.
Who knows, you might surprise yourself and have a great time.
Listing Good and Bad Things
Stop obsessing over the good memories and qualities he had. Sure, he might have those good memories, but it’s important to recognize the bad ones as well.
Creating a list of the positive and negative things can help you erase some of the negative thoughts you have. You’ll be amazed at how much relief you’ll have once you focus on things objectively.
Online Dating
If you feel ready to get back into the dating game, try online dating. It’s a great way to expand your social circle and meet new people.
However, don’t jump into anything serious too soon, but also appreciate the process. As I’ve said, false hope can cause you heartache.
It’s Not Only Your Loss
Believe that you will be a better and stronger person, even in the absence of him. Remember that the healing process is an opportunity for personal growth.
There is someone out there better suited for you, so it’s not just his loss but his opportunity to find the right person. Focus on being happy for him, but make sure you are the priority in your universe.
Don’t Stalk Him on Social Media
Avoid temptation, keep your productivity, and your sanity. It’s a no-brainer.
Delete him from your social media platforms, unfollow him, or better yet, block him. This may be tough, but it’s a clear way of telling yourself that it’s time to move on.
His stories and posts will only rekindle your feelings, and it may cause you to feel down. Stop Thinking About ‘Could Have’, ‘What If’, and Focus on the Present
The past can’t be changed, but we always have an opportunity to make our present a better place.
Instead of dwelling on ‘what if’ or ‘could have,’ focus on the positives in your life right now. Stay positive, even when it seems impossible.
Focus on the Good Things You Already Have in Life
Find gratitude in your life. The love of your friends and family, the hobbies you’ve been wanting to try, and work that gives you satisfaction.
This can be a difficult mindset, but as we focus on things that already give us joy, the world becomes brighter.
Make Yourself a Priority
I’m saying it again, and it’s always true – make yourself the priority in your universe. Prioritize your happiness, your self-love, and your self-worth.
Only if you’re whole can you give that wholeness to someone else. It’s your body, mind, and soul that must be the prime.
Forgive Yourself
You are not perfect, and you might have some mistakes in the relationship. Please forgive yourself, learn from them, and move on.
Don’t blame yourself because it takes two people to keep a relationship going.
Find the Courage to Accept Things You Cannot Change
And here’s the last but equally important point – acceptance.
Acceptance is the key.
Accept that sometimes things don’t go as planned. It may be painful, but acceptance is the only way to let go.
Once you accept what is, you can do anything you wish. Letting go doesn’t mean it’s easy, but it’s how we take care of ourselves.
Conclusion
Hey girl, heartbreak happens, and these are just some of the things you can do to move on – accept, self-care, and focus on the present. Keep reminding yourself that you’re not alone in this.
You have friends and family that love and support you. You also have you, the person with a kind heart, the one who wants to grow and become a better version of you.
Always keep in mind that heartache doesn’t last forever, and just like every emotion, it passes. In conclusion, moving on from a relationship can be a challenging process, but it’s essential to prioritize self-care, self-love, and personal growth.
Acceptance of the situation can be the first step towards healing. Focus on the present, and let go of things you cannot change.
Remember that false hope can cause you heartache, and finding closure is essential for your well-being. Heartache is not easy, but it is temporary.
You have the strength and resilience to overcome it. Believe in yourself, and take it one step at a time.
You got this!