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Almost Relationships: Lessons Learned and Love Found

Dear reader,

Have you ever found yourself in an almost relationship? Where you almost had their heart but never quite got there?

Or worse, have you ever found yourself dragging along in an almost relationship, investing all your time and energy, only for it to fizzle out? Well, I’ve been there, and let me tell you, it’s not a fun place to be.

But as I look back on those experiences, I realize that I’m actually thankful for them. Because without those almost relationships, I wouldn’t be the person I am today.

It’s not easy to admit, but I had a hand in those almost relationships just as much as they did. And acknowledging that responsibility has been a crucial part of my growth.

So let’s dive into this topic and explore the valuable lessons that almost relationships have taught us.

Thankful for the Almost Failure

It’s easy to get lost in the heartbreak of an almost relationship. But as time passes, you start to realize that dodging that bullet was a blessing in disguise.

You didn’t invest all that time and energy into something that wasn’t going to work out in the end. Instead, you can take pride in the fact that you put yourself out there and tried.

You had the courage to be vulnerable and open yourself up to the possibility of love. And that takes a lot of strength.

Acknowledging Responsibility

It’s so easy to fill in the blanks with our own thoughts and words, tricking ourselves into believing something that isn’t true. We may have even initiated everything in the almost relationship, without ever knowing what the other person was thinking.

But it’s important to take a step back and look at our own actions and behaviors. Did we put forth effort into trying to love them, or did we expect them to do all the work?

Did we speak up when something bothered us, or did we keep quiet to avoid confrontation? These are the things we need to examine and take responsibility for.

Questioning the Almost Relationship

Sometimes, we fall into the trap of being an almost girlfriend without even realizing it. We put all our efforts into fighting for the man, without ever really showing or telling them how much we love them.

We make excuses for their behavior or dismiss red flags, all in the name of preserving the relationship. But what if we challenged the man and put love first?

What if we showed them we were willing to fight for the relationship, but we also weren’t going to settle for anything less than what we deserved? Maybe the almost relationship wouldn’t have been so almost after all.

Dragged Along in an Almost Relationship

It’s not always easy to see when we’re being dragged along in an almost relationship. We may be purposely blind to the signs or not accepting reality.

But eventually, we start to see that it’s not just us. The other person was just as responsible for the demise of the almost relationship.

But it’s not all doom and gloom. We can take comfort in knowing that we weren’t the problem.

We weren’t alone in walking those cold and lonely streets, dwelling on what we did wrong. We can learn to understand that it wasn’t us and move on to find the right person who will make all the effort in the world.

Convenience over Love

Perhaps the reason we find ourselves in an almost relationship is that we value convenience over love. We settle for the hot ‘n’ cold, the saving from pain, even if it means dragging along.

But love shouldn’t be a convenience. It should be an all-consuming passion that you can’t imagine living without.

One-Sided Effort

In an almost relationship, it’s not uncommon to feel like we’re the only ones putting forth any effort. We initiated everything, planned everything, and never knew what the other person was thinking.

But relationships are a two-way street, and we deserve someone who will match our efforts.

Love is Blind

They say love is blind, and that couldn’t be more true in an almost relationship. We may be so caught up in our feelings that we don’t realize we’re being dragged along.

But we can learn to recognize the signs and accept that we deserve better than an almost relationship. In conclusion, almost relationships can be painful and confusing.

But if we take the time to acknowledge our responsibility, question the almost relationship, and value ourselves, we can move on to find the love we truly deserve. So let’s say goodbye to the almost relationships of the past and welcome the possibility of a bright and beautiful future.


Your fellow almost relationship survivor

Hello again, reader. In our previous article, we discussed almost relationships and the growth that comes from learning valuable lessons.

Today, we’re flipping the script and talking about why we should be thankful for not even trying. It’s easy to get caught up in the idea that we need to be in a relationship or that we need to try and give love a chance.

But sometimes, not trying is the best choice we can make. Let’s explore why.

Finding What We Don’t Want

When we don’t try, we get the opportunity to see what we don’t want in a relationship. We can see how things shouldn’t be and save ourselves from the pain of being in a relationship that’s not right for us.

Without that experience, we may find ourselves settling for something less than we deserve. But by not trying, we can take the time to figure out what we truly want and go after it with everything we have.

Not Settling

Speaking of settling, not trying also means not settling. We may be tempted to give in to convenience or the idea that we need to be with someone, even if they’re not right for us.

But when we don’t try, we’re not allowing ourselves to settle for anything less than what we truly desire. We want someone who challenges us to be better.

We want someone who sees potential in us and helps us become our best selves. We don’t want to settle for anything less.

Excitement for the Future

Finally, not trying allows us to be excited for the future. We’ll have a heart full of desire and eyes that light up when we think about meeting the person who’s perfect for us.

It’s an exciting prospect to think about being with someone who completes us and makes us feel whole. By not trying, we’re opening ourselves up to the possibility of meeting someone who’s the complete opposite of what we thought we wanted.

And that’s an exciting prospect.

The Kind of Love We Deserve

Now that we’ve established why not trying can be a good thing, let’s talk about the kind of love we deserve when we do choose to try.

Choosing Love

First and foremost, we should always be putting love first. When we choose to be with someone, they should be our top priority.

We should be willing to choose the man over anything because he means that much to us. And in return, we should expect the same level of dedication and commitment from him.

Seeing Potential

When we’re in a relationship, we should be challenging our partner to be the best version of themselves. We should see their potential and push them to reach it.

We want to be with someone who makes us better and inspires us to be our best selves.

Standing Out

We want to be with someone who makes us feel like we’re their everything. Someone who doesn’t just come along the way, but stands out from the crowd.

We deserve to be with someone who sees us as their whole world and wakes up every day grateful to be next to us.

Putting First

Lastly, we want to be with someone who puts us first. Someone who goes out of their way to make us feel loved and appreciated.

We want to wake up every day with the knowledge that we’re with the person who loves us more than anything in the world. In conclusion, not trying can be a good thing, but when we do choose to try, we deserve the kind of love that goes above and beyond.

We deserve to be with someone who puts love first, sees potential, stands out, and puts us first. Let’s not settle for anything less.

In conclusion, whether it’s choosing love or recognizing the value of not even trying, our experiences with relationships teach us valuable lessons. Acknowledging our own responsibility, questioning what we truly want, and putting our desires first are crucial in finding the kind of love we deserve.

By learning from our past experiences, we can find the courage to put ourselves out there and try again or the strength to walk away and wait for the right person. Ultimately, whether we’re thankful for almost relationships or grateful for the chance to start fresh, it’s all part of the journey to finding true love and happiness.

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