Have you ever dealt with a narcissist? You know, the type of person who loves to talk about themselves, make everything about them, and can never admit they’re wrong?
Yeah, those people. They’re not easy to deal with, and unfortunately, they have a knack for coming back into our lives when we least expect it.
Why do they do this? Let’s dive into some reasons why narcissists come back.
You’ve probably heard it before “I’ve changed!” “I’m not like I used to be!” “I made a mistake, and I’m sorry!” These are all things a narcissist might say when they come back into your life. They’ll make promises to be different, to treat you better, and to never hurt you again.
It sounds great, right? But the truth is, narcissists are masters of lies and manipulation.
They know exactly what to say to get you back in their clutches, but they have no intention of actually changing. They just want to use you once again for their own gain.
Need for Energetic Supply
Have you ever felt drained after spending time with a certain person? That’s because some people are “energy vampires” they suck the life out of you and leave you feeling exhausted.
Narcissists are no exception. They thrive off of other people’s positive energy, and they need a regular source of it to feel happy and well-fed.
So when they come back into your life, it’s because they know they can use you as an energy source once again.
One of the most disturbing things about narcissists is the way they objectify people. To them, other people are just objects to be used and tossed away when they’re no longer of use.
So when a narcissist comes back into your life, it’s because they see you as an item they can use again. They don’t care about your feelings or well-being they just want what they can get from you.
Now that we’ve covered why narcissists come back, let’s talk about what to do when they do.
When a narcissist comes back into your life, they’ll likely make an apology. But don’t be fooled it’s probably insincere.
Narcissists are excellent at playing the victim, so their apology might seem genuine, but it’s just another ploy to get back into your life. Don’t let them fool you if their actions don’t match their words, they’re not really sorry.
Narcissists are known for their stalking tendencies, and that doesn’t go away just because they’ve been out of your life for a while. They’ll likely try to hover around you in any way they can through social media, mutual friends, or just randomly showing up where you are.
They’ll observe you, waiting for a weak moment to strike and try to reel you back in. Don’t fall for their tricks stay strong and keep your distance.
Ignoring the Narcissist
Ignoring a narcissist can be tough they’ll likely try to get a rise out of you in any way they can. But ignoring them is the best course of action.
It takes a lot of strength to cut off contact and enforce a “no contact” rule, but it’s the best thing for your energy source. You don’t need a narcissist in your life, and by ignoring them, you’re taking back your power.
Dealing with a narcissist isn’t easy, but by understanding why they come back and how to handle it when they do, you can protect yourself and your energy source. Remember that you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, and don’t let a narcissist convince you otherwise.
Stay strong, and don’t let them back into your life.
Take care of yourself, and until next time,
In our previous discussion, we talked about why narcissists come back into our lives and the ways we can deal with them.
But today, we’re going to dive into the dangers of going back to a narcissist, as well as the consequences of taking one back.
Missing the Feeling of Affection
One of the biggest dangers of going back to a narcissist is the feeling of missing their affection. Narcissists can be incredibly charming and loving when they want to be, and it’s understandable that you might miss that feeling of connection and warmth.
But don’t be fooled that feeling is fleeting and will quickly turn to loneliness and danger. Narcissists are experts at exploiting people’s weaknesses, and they’ll use your longing for affection to their advantage.
Another danger of going back to a narcissist is the risk of becoming bored. Narcissists thrive on drama and attention, and if you don’t respond to their provocations and don’t give them what they want, they’ll quickly lose interest.
But don’t mistake their lack of interest for a lack of danger they’ll still be watching and waiting for an opportunity to strike. So don’t engage with them, and don’t give them any more attention than they deserve.
Treat them like a dull, gray stone, and eventually, they’ll lose interest and move on.
Non-Application of No Contact Rule
One of the most important things to remember when dealing with a narcissist is the no contact rule. This means cutting off all contact and distancing yourself from them.
But the danger of not applying the no contact rule is that narcissists will keep coming back, seeking out another victim to manipulate and destroy. Remember that to a narcissist, you’re just a faceless source of emotional destruction so don’t let them back into your life.
Consequences of Taking the Narcissist Back
Now, let’s talk about the consequences of taking a narcissist back. It’s a mistake we’ve all made thinking that they’ve changed or feeling sorry for them.
But in reality, taking a narcissist back only leads to heartache and pain.
Perhaps the most immediate consequence of taking a narcissist back is the tears. You’ll likely find yourself crying over their behavior, their manipulation, and their lies.
But don’t let them see your tears instead, take a deep breath and walk away. Remember that you deserve better than this, and don’t let them have the satisfaction of seeing you cry.
Doing the Narcissist a Favor
The other consequence of taking a narcissist back is that you’re doing them a favor. By taking them back, you’re letting them know that they can get away with their behavior and that it’s okay for them to treat people badly.
You’re giving them a sense of power and validation, and that’s exactly what they want. So instead of taking them back, take a calm approach, and walk away.
Remember that true power lies in standing up for yourself and refusing to be treated poorly. In conclusion, going back to a narcissist can be incredibly dangerous and can have long-lasting consequences.
Remember to apply the no contact rule, stay strong, and don’t let them back into your life. You deserve better than to be treated poorly, and you have the power to walk away and start anew.
Take care of yourself, and until next time,
In conclusion, it’s important to remember that dealing with a narcissist can be a challenging and often emotional experience. Whether you’re dealing with a false epiphany, need for energetic supply, or objectifying people, it’s crucial to stay strong, apply the no contact rule, and protect your emotional wellbeing.
The dangers of going back, including missing the feeling of affection and becoming bored, highlight the importance of staying away from narcissists. And, if you do end up taking a narcissist back, the consequences, such as crying and doing them a favor, underscore the importance of standing up for yourself and refusing to be treated badly.
Remember that you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect and don’t let a narcissist convince you otherwise. Stay strong, protect your energy source, and take care of yourself.