The Roller Coaster of Narcissistic Relationships: From Manipulation to Real Love


Are You in a Narcissistic Relationship?

Hey there!

Are you feeling like you’re on an emotional roller coaster with your partner? Do you feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells, trying not to upset them?

If so, you may be in a narcissistic relationship. Narcissists are individuals who have a grandiose sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy for others, and a need for admiration and attention.

Characteristics of Narcissists

  • Manipulative behavior: Narcissists often use tactics like gaslighting, blame-shifting, and lying to control their partners.
  • Control: Narcissists need to be in control of every aspect of their lives and their partner’s lives.
  • Tactics: Narcissists may use tactics like “love bombing” (showering their partner with affection and attention), intermittent reinforcement (giving and taking away love and affection), or withholding affection and attention as punishment.

Being in a relationship with a narcissist can have a profound effect on your mental and emotional well-being.

Effects of Narcissistic Relationships

  • Emotional roller coaster: One minute, the narcissist may be showering their partner with love and affection, and the next minute, they may be distant and cold.
  • Feeling like a piece of shit: Narcissists often make their partners feel inferior or unworthy of their love and attention.
  • Confusion: Narcissists often use gaslighting tactics to make their partners question their own sanity or reality.

If you find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, the best thing you can do is to get out.

Why Narcissists Want Their Victims Back

However, narcissists often want their victims back, even if they were the ones to leave. Here’s why:

  • Need someone to feed off: Narcissists need a source of admiration and attention, and if they don’t have a partner, they may seek it elsewhere.
  • Dose of happiness: Narcissists often feel a rush of pleasure when they are able to win back a former partner.
  • Can’t stand being alone: Narcissists fear being alone and will do anything to avoid it.

Manipulative Behavior of Narcissists

If a narcissist is trying to seduce you back into a relationship, they may use manipulative behavior like sweet-talking or luring you into a trap. Here’s what to look out for:

  • Sweet-talking: Narcissists may say everything you want to hear, promising to change or treating you like a king or queen.
  • Luring into trap: Narcissists may try and get you to meet up in person or engage in intimate behavior, only to then discard you once they get what they want.

Sadly, victims of narcissistic relationships may fall for these tricks, believing that the narcissist has truly changed or that they are their only source of happiness.

However, falling back into a relationship with a narcissist only leads to further feelings of subordination and maltreatment. If you’re currently in a narcissistic relationship, it may be difficult to leave, but it’s important to prioritize your own well-being and seek help if necessary.

Remember, you deserve to be loved and respected, and you don’t have to put up with emotional abuse. Take care of yourself, and know that you are not alone.


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Leaving a Narcissistic Relationship

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Leaving a narcissistic relationship can feel like falling down the rabbit hole, like Alice in Wonderland. It’s disorienting, scary, and can leave you feeling unsure of what’s real and what’s not.

Trust Issues After Leaving

One of the initial challenges of leaving a narcissistic relationship is learning to trust again. You may doubt the behavior of your new partner or feel like everyone is out to get you.

It’s important to remember that not everyone is like your ex-partner and that it’s okay to take things slow.

Positive Changes After Leaving

However, positive changes can occur when you leave a narcissistic relationship.

Characteristics of a Loving Relationship

  • Being heard: In a loving relationship, both partners should feel heard and understood.
  • Not being blamed for everything: In a loving relationship, both partners take responsibility for their own actions and don’t blame their partner for everything.
  • Compromise: In a loving relationship, both partners are willing to compromise and work together to find solutions.

Differences Between Narcissistic and Loving Relationships

The difference between a narcissistic relationship and a loving relationship is like night and day.

Narcissistic vs. Loving

Narcissistic Loving
Selfishness Kindness
‘I’ and ‘me’ ‘We’
Manipulation Respect

Characteristics of Real Love

Real love is the opposite of a narcissistic relationship. It’s about loving unconditionally, appreciating each other’s flaws, having endless trust, and compromising.

  • Loving unconditionally: Real love doesn’t come with conditions or strings attached. It’s about accepting your partner for who they are, flaws and all.
  • Appreciating flaws: In a real loving relationship, flaws are seen as part of what makes your partner unique and special.
  • Endless trust: In a real loving relationship, there’s no room for secrets or lies. Both partners have endless trust in each other.
  • Compromise: In a real loving relationship, both partners are willing to compromise and work together to create a happy and healthy relationship.

Contrastingly, a narcissistic relationship is all about caring for oneself with a lack of respect and manipulative behavior. It’s important to remember that leaving a narcissistic relationship can be challenging, but it’s worth it to find real love.

You deserve to be with someone who treats you with kindness and respect. Take care of yourself and remember that you are worthy of real love.


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In conclusion, being in a narcissistic relationship can have devastating effects on one’s mental and emotional well-being, and it’s important to recognize the signs and prioritize self-care.

While leaving a narcissistic relationship can be challenging and may cause initial trust issues, there are positive changes that come with being in a loving relationship, such as feeling heard, not being blamed for everything, and compromising.

By understanding the differences between narcissistic and loving relationships, we can better judge the behavior of our partners and cultivate real love that is characterized by loving unconditionally, appreciation of flaws, endless trust, and compromise.

Remember, everyone deserves to be treated with kindness and respect, and it’s crucial to value oneself and seek real love.

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