Dating Do’s and Don’ts: A Guide for Men
Common Dating Mistakes to Avoid
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Refusing to Pick Anything
Indecisiveness can be a major turn-off. It’s important to plan ahead and have a clear idea of what you want to do on your date. Don’t put the burden of decision making solely on your partner, take the time to think about what you both might enjoy and be prepared to offer suggestions.
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Showing up Late
Punctuality is a simple way to show respect. Arrive on time or even a little early if possible, to show that you value your partner’s time.
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Looking Outwardly Unsatisfied
Criticism and rudeness is never a good idea, especially not on a date. Instead, focus on finding common ground and share positive comments that show you appreciate them.
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Staring at the Waitress
Flirting with the waitress is a definite no-no. It’s disrespectful to your date and to the waitress, who is just doing her job. Keep your eyes on your date and show them that they have your undivided attention.
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Complaining about Prices
Money is a sensitive topic, and complaining about prices can make your partner feel uncomfortable. Instead of focusing on the cost, focus on enjoying the experience together.
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Not Paying
Chivalry may not be dead, but it’s important to remember that we live in an age of equality. It’s not necessary for the man to pay for everything, and it’s good to offer to split the check or take turns treating each other.
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Bringing a Buffer
Bringing a friend or a third-party can make things awkward and put unnecessary pressure on your date. It’s better to keep things simple and just focus on getting to know each other.
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Talking at Her
Monologuing can be exhausting and boring. It’s important to listen to your partner and engage in a two-way conversation. Ask open-ended questions and show genuine interest in what they have to say.
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Texting
Put your phone away and focus on your date. Constantly checking your phone is distracting and sends the message that you’re not fully present in the moment.
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Trying to Have Sex
Consent is key, and it’s important to respect your partner’s boundaries. Trying to pressure or manipulate them into having sex is never okay. Instead, focus on building a connection and getting to know each other on a deeper level.
Tips for a Successful Date
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Have Great Conversation
Communication is key, so ask questions and show an interest in your partner’s interests and passions. Listen actively and respond thoughtfully, and don’t be afraid to share a little about yourself too.
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Be Chivalrous
Good manners and etiquette are always appreciated. Open the door for your date, pull out their chair for them, and be respectful at all times.
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Give Full Attention
Last but not least, give your date your undivided attention. Put your phone away, maintain eye contact, and show that you’re fully present in the moment.
In conclusion, dating can be both exciting and nerve-wracking, but by avoiding common mistakes and following these simple tips, you can make a great impression and have a successful date. Remember to be yourself, be respectful, and have fun!
Every date is an opportunity to connect with someone new and to learn and grow from the experience.
